by iwritefeminism on instagram
Drunk consent is not rape. If you don’t want to have drunk sex, then don’t drink. END OF STORY.
I’m going to ignore the absolute moron logic you used (“if you don’t want to have drunk sex, then don’t drink”), but just know that it’s absolutely moronic. You probably don’t realize just how silly it is because you implemented it, but gosh.
Drunk consent is rape because you are intoxicated. To clarify that, intoxicated means “cause (someone) to lose control of their faculties or behavior.” Agreeing to something when you aren’t in control of your thoughts or actions isn’t genuinely agreeing to something. Approving of something when you aren’t in your right mind isn’t genuine approval. Drunkenness isn’t consent. It’s really not that difficult. Don’t let ignorance (or maybe your own past?) drive you and your ability to reason.
Does that apply to when both parties are drunk?
In my own opinion, yes, though it’s a bit more complex. (A lot of films typically depict this as a regret, or a mistake, or a “I can’t believe that happened” though because both parties are at fault and neither was capable of being 100% aware and reasonable, meaning no one can really be blamed—does that make sense? This is one of those “depends on who you ask” scenarios, as in you might get different answers from different people. I still consider it a form of rape because the consent wasn’t sober, but on the other hand, like I said before, there wasn’t a voice of reason to prevent the situation from happening unless there was a sober third party member involved somehow. So it’s like…more understandable? But still not really excusable.)
Drunkenness is not consent for any gender. Drunkenness is not consent for any number of people involved. We all know drunk people are not always capable of making good decisions, or of making decisions they would normally agree to when sober: it’s not an excuse to steal, it’s not an excuse to murder, it’s not an excuse for anything.
Again, this is my own opinion.